This past weekend Cash's co-worker and the closest friend I have in Midland got hitched. Yeah they did! I love these people...
|my first week ever in Midland..haha|
Being the new girl in a close-knit town marrying a hometown boy is a dauting task. I remember being the judge of all the girls my guy friends dated and married. Being on the flip side of things and living in a new state for the first time in my life I have been pretty anxious. Will I meet friends? Will the girls like me? What if I don't make any girlfriends?? Every girl has those nerves, and moving to a place like Midland where oil has struck it rich ..and me coming from small town Arkansas... magnified that. But Barbara was so fun and enjoyable to be around that I knew I would at least have one friend besides Cash.
|my now husband and dear friend at the Ranch Party 2011|
|Ross and Barb Ranch Party 2011|
|Ross and Cash|
So when Ross popped the question to sweet Barbara (in Hawaii!!! single guys take note), it was a yes ma'am on the rsvp. They decided to say their vows (and oh my how sweet they were---every female in the room, as well as Ross's brother, were tearing up with Barb through her vows) in gorgeous Santa Fe and the Four Seasons Encantado. Take your breath away!
But with all the excitement of going to our first wedding as a married couple, seeing our friends tie the knot, having a weekend out of town...with all of that I was still nervous. I would have Cash, but who else would I talk to? What will it be like? I didn't know many other people in this circle.
Luckily, after the wedding we were all standing outside and got to talking to people around us. I already knew Heather (the single sweetest person in the world) and Kellye (Ross's sister), so I just stuck in that group. Then I got to meet Savannah, and oh my stars. We had the best best best time!!!
|Savannah, Kellye, me, and Heather (thanks, Heather, for tweeting this pic. ha)|
|my amazing husband|
On top of all that something changed for me this weekend. I got to know more people and felt so comfortable. I watched my husband interact with so many old friends. And although I still felt like a newbie, I knew I'd be okay. Before the night was over, Heather looked at me and said, "Barbara and I were talking how you were moving to Midland and we said, 'She is so going to be in our group!!!'" How can that not make you feel like you already have a place to belong?
While I've always had a great time with my friends and know how to feel at home back "home", it was fun yet different this weekend. People were no longer talking about the time in basketball in high school or about the hard time with a student this past year or about the latest with so-and-so. And I missed that. At one point I put my head on Cash's shoulder with big tears in my eyes and said seeing all these people so close makes me miss my friends.
But while it was different, it was still really good. People were now talking about college degrees and the careers they led. Doing Aggie chants not calling the Hogs. It was oil talk and vacations. I've known life would be different in Midland because opportunities are different. However, on top of being different in the realm of friends and networking it was different that I was now Avery Pullin, a Mrs. It stings a little to miss my friends and family, the ones who watched me grow up and the ones who knew me single and saw me endure 26 years by myself. The ones who watched me grow as a person and a friend. But I get the opportunity of a lifetime and that's in starting out a new chapter with new surroundings, a new last name, and a new chance. No one may know all the baggage or all the childhood memories or all the proud moments. But they have what is me now: a married woman starting a new job and new adventure. That's my blank slate...one I'm proud to start writing on.